I’d like to share my experience with living the word Equality within the context of day to day interactions with people, and specifically in the context of relationships.
In my previous relationship experience there were many scenarios in which I would react to my partner and end up contributing to and participating in conflict and blame. These conflict experiences served as consequences which, after the relationship ended, ultimately supported me to see and realize that I had been living the word Equality more as an ‘idealized, general value’ – where, although I was standing within the principle that we are all Equal as Life and that thus we are all in fact ‘the same self’ in a way, I lacked a specific ‘daily life’ definition, which resulted in an effective structure with which to support myself to interact, express, and walk with my partner in a way that is best for us both.
In short, I realized that I was actually living the word Equality as a point of separation – where, I was wanting another being and ‘our world that we are sharing together’, to become equal to ‘my preferences and wants’, rather than really learning to equalize myself / change myself / adapt myself to walk WITH another who is DIFFERENT from me. Within this, I realized that there were aspects of my partner in terms of ‘the way they do things’, and ‘the way they express themselves’, that I in essence ‘didn’t want to be equal to’ / ‘didn’t want to be part of my world’. Yet these differences in another which I resisted / had an aversion to / judged – actually ended up being gifts which opened up points of self change and self expansion for me.
Stay tuned as I open this point of further in my next post.