I was noticing something quite significant in the way we live on Earth. And by ‘we’, I’m focusing specifically here on the ‘we’ in this world that are actually able to read this blog post, and have access to the internet and other amenities in our lives – which is the ‘we’ that have money in this world — the ‘we’ that have food, water, clothing, health care, homes, cars, ipods, cell phones, computers, books, education, vacations, televisions, movies, the ‘we’ that eat in restaurants, go for long walks on the beach, engage in leisure activities, the ‘we’ that have a choice in what job we do – the ‘we’ that have time and comfort for self reflection, for self evaluation, for self investigation, the ‘we’ that can sit back in the comfort of our own home, and survey through marvelous information technology, all that goes on daily throughout the far reaches of the world.
How about Family? Why do we want to start a family? What is the nature of the thought processess involved in deciding to start a family?
I want to see what our child will look like, I’m curious who my child would be, I want to continue my family line, I want to fulfill my parents’ wish for grandchildren, I want to be a grandparent someday, I’m bored, I’m an adult and adults have families, I want to make memories, I want someone to pass on my traditions on to, I want to be be seen by others as being a responsible person, I want to have sex and my religion dictates that I can’t have sex unless I’m starting a family or else I’ll go to hell, I want to go on family trips, I’m lonely, I’m getting old and I don’t want to miss out on all the great family experiences I see others having, I want to prove I’m a better parent than mine were, I want a purpose in life, I want to grow old with my partner and see our children grow up and have someone to support us in our old age. I want to be like everyone else, I want to be normal. I want to teach a new person what I believe is right. I want to give someone a name and dress them up.
And, when we finally do have children and raise a family, after the struggles, fights, difficulties, aren’t we the most satisfied when we’ve managed to design our family in the way that is most convenient to our own interests, our own life, our own experience? When our relationship, our job, our family is stable, when we’re living the dream of relationship, job, and family we wanted to come true, doesn’t everything seem ‘right with the world’? We’re feeling good, life is good.
Look carefully and you’ll see a pattern emerging in the way we live – a pattern emerging in the ‘Who I Am’ within looking for a relationship partner, looking for a job, raising a family. Take a moment to reflect on the thought processess involved in looking for a relationship partner, looking for a job, raising a family. Who would you say is the prime beneficiary of the relationship, and of the job, and of the family? Would it be ‘my interest’, ‘my life’, ‘my experience’?
But here’s the thing. In a world with millions and millions of other beings whom we know were born into a less fortunate circumstance than ourselves, who are abused for the convenience of the interests, the lives, the experiences of those who are more fortunate – don’t we start to look rather selfish in the way we live? I mean, do our relationships and jobs we pursue, and the families we raise in any way serve anyone other than our own interest, our own life, our own experience? I mean, when we say ‘life is good’ – doesn’t this only ever mean that we’ve managed to achieve a position in this world in which life is convenient to my interests, my life, my experience? Isn’t it selfish to do whatever it takes to have a nice life for Me, but not do whatever it takes to make sure Everyone Else also has a nice life? We all talk about changing the world, making the world a better place, ending poverty, ending war – we all say we care, but at the same time that millions of beings are suffering daily, we really in the end are only ever focused on maintaining that which is convenient to our own interests, our own life, our own experience. I mean, isn’t all our talk of change and making the world a better place really just in the interest of making ourselves and each other feel like we are good people? Isn’t our care really just a CareActor of selfishness when the lives we live – the relationships we have, the jobs we have, the families we raise are based on that which is of the highest convenience to our own interests, our own life, our own experience, and never produce any solution to actually in fact make a Change in this world?
In the next post we’ll continue with investigating the Inconvenient Truth of Selfishness in having a look at Who I Am in relation to Spirituality, as most of us as the ‘we’ with access to this blog, would experience that we are anything but Selfish in Spirituality, as Spirituality is held as the path of Divinity, the path of Evolution, the path of Change, the path of Goodness, the Path of Love. But in the Journey to Life we’re not just accepting how we ‘experience‘ things to be, we’re looking at Who we Are in the starting point of the experience. In the Journey to Life we’re uncovering the Truth of Self, and exposing it – facing it. Because, isn’t the whole point of Honesty to Face the Truth no matter how Inconvenient it might be to the way we Want the truth to be?